The Emergency Reset Ritual

Quick tools to calm anxiety, reduce overwhelm, and reset your baseline

Are you having a hard day… or are you just having a difficult moment?

Maybe you’re in a season of difficult times.

How do you find the space to breathe?

When it’s time to put your big girl pants on, buckle down, and make it through a tough situation, how do you stay present and not let the moment overtake you?

Better yet… how do you reset after a hard day?

I remember when I was going through a hard time. I put in several online applications and requests for help from different types of services.

On one of them, I got a positive response, but I never received the follow-up mail correspondence. The confirmation had come three weeks prior, and that’s a long time to wait for something you need right away.

So I called the number first thing in the morning so I wouldn’t have to worry about long hold times. I actually called three different numbers. Several times.

All of the lines were automated.

All of the prompts went in circles.

None of them had an option to speak to a human.

An hour and a half later, I was frustrated to the point of tears… and it was not yet 10 a.m.

This was just another week in a season of hard times. And that could have easily been another bad day.

But it wasn’t.

I cried for sure.

But then I reset myself. I picked up my regular routine (which was a new schedule I had recently put into place a few months prior). And I ended my day very gently—with a home-cooked comfort meal.

I was able to turn that very frustrating moment back into a pretty good day because of the way I was able to work through that stress.

I didn’t just deal with it.

My coping method—in that moment when I found myself surrounded by anxiety and irritated with frustration—allowed me to regulate my emotions and relieve the overwhelm of my situation not being resolved right away.

It also gave me space to acknowledge and accept what things were for the time being.

And most importantly, it allowed me to reset the tempo for the rest of the day.

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In my previous post, “When Stability Slips Away,” I talk about the stress cycle and the importance of proper coping techniques.

For a quick reference, the stress cycle looks something like this:

• Baseline – everything is normal

• Stressor – something happens (a “random” thought, a conversation, a bill due, a conflict, an unexpected event)

• Activation – awareness of the threat, and the internal signal that something must be addressed

• Coping – the method you use to restore safety

• Return to baseline – your nervous system recalibrates and adjusts to what becomes the new “normal”

And as I mentioned in that post, it’s the coping and the return to baseline that require the most intention and structure.

Having a reset ritual as one of your coping mechanisms creates space for a safe return to baseline.

The key is allowing yourself the opportunity to be intentional about regulating your emotions.

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Why a Ritual and Not Just a Routine?

Why do I keep calling it a reset ritual instead of a routine?

Because routines can be done in your sleep, so to speak—without much thought. And while routines are key components of building structure and stability, rituals are mindful activities that create a restorative experience.

Routines are put in place to keep life organized and reduce overload.

Rituals not only reduce stress—they create a deeper sense of well-being by helping you slow down, recalibrate, and return to yourself.

Creating a reset ritual is a practice of self-care and an exercise in mindfulness.

Rituals are also habit-forming, just like routines, but with extra attention and effort devoted to restoring yourself and setting the tone for what happens next.

So how do you create a reset ritual?

What should be included?

How long should it last?

Let’s talk about it.

I actually encourage my clients to have two reset rituals: an Emergency Reset (for the moment), and a Restoration Reset (for ending a hard day).

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The Emergency Reset

This is a personal tool that can be used anywhere, and it should be very accessible. The goal here is not to tackle the problem—it’s to bring yourself back to a safe emotional space.

Your Emergency Reset is how you calm yourself in moments when you feel anxiety rising, or when you catch yourself in panic mode.

This is the tool you use when you find yourself overstimulated, or when you notice that you have become irritable because of a situation.

Again, the goal here is to interrupt your natural stress response and ground yourself with support and clarity.

Here are a few simple options you can mix and match based on what you need in the moment:

Emergency Reset: Quick Tools (Choose 3–5 Total)

Environmental Reset

• Step outside for fresh air, even if it’s just 2 minutes

• Turn off harsh lights and lower the stimulation in the room

• Change your physical space (move rooms, sit in your car, open a window)

Emotional Reset

• Write down what you’re feeling in one honest sentence

• Call or text someone safe and simply say, “I’m overwhelmed right now.”

• Repeat a grounding statement like:

  “I am safe in this moment. I can handle one thing at a time.”

Physical Reset

• Take 10 deep breaths (slow inhale, long exhale)

• Shake out your arms, shoulders, or legs to release tension

• Drink water and unclench your jaw, relax your shoulders, and soften your stomach

The goal is not to solve the problem in that moment.

The goal is to regulate your body enough to respond instead of react.

I suggest letting your Emergency Reset last within a 10–20 minute time span, and pulling something from each category for a total of 3–5 actions.

That way, you’ve acknowledged your emotions, created a physical release, and shifted your environment in some way.

These things allow the stress cycle to complete without spilling over into the next moment.

An intentional 10 minutes can set the tone for a beautiful 24 hours.

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You don’t need to solve your entire life in the middle of a stressful moment. You just need to regulate enough to return to yourself.

The Emergency Reset is a reminder that you can pause.

You can breathe.

You can interrupt the spiral.

And you can choose your next step with clarity instead of panic.

And in a separate post, I’ll talk about the Restoration Reset—the ritual you use to close out a hard day and return to a safe baseline with peace, structure, and intention.

When Stability Slips Pt 1

When Stability Slips Pt 2

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What’s your go-to emergency reset when life feels overwhelming? Let me know in the comments.